Work that web.

Insecurity. Jealousy. Bad.

A trustworthy adult I interact with regularly was recently forced by his jealous spouse to cancel his Facebook account.  Gasp.

Only a fool would get between them. Nevertheless it bothers me as someone who evangelizes social media. I guess spousal tension is just another of its enemies, in addition to the usual “I don’t need that” and “Facebook is dumb” and “I hate computers”. At least at face value.

Is the insecurity because of a lack of education or is it justified distrust?

Or, is it based on the bad reputation of more anonymous social sites like MySpace?  The nice thing about Facebook is that most people I know don’t hide behind fake names and photos.  They are more exposed, and that adds to the trust factor.

There are a couple ways I might keep the love, as it’s easy to commit unjustifiable amounts of time maintaining profile photos and refreshing statuses.

First, at a minimum, share what you found on Facebook just like you share about your work days.  It’s about sharing anyway.  Keep the sharing going.

And second, if the first one isn’t enough, use pictures of your family as your profile picture.  Personally, I am really into my profile pic being only me since it is my profile, but whatever it takes for you to stay my friend.

For those poor souls prone to disloyalty, the social web may be undue temptation.  I wouldn’t advocate keeping a profile at all costs.  Intentions may be clear.  Know thy self.

As progressive thinking people, we should embrace new means of connection, especially when it expands our reach like social media does. And if one spouse really benefits from it, the other may also.